One of the first things new clients share with me is their diagnosis. They will say something like: I’ve fibromyalgia and therefore I don’t have a lot of energy and my body always aches. Or: I’m always tired and exhausted because I’ve ME or chronic fatigue syndrome. I’m not surprised my clients share their diagnosis with me, as they have received it from a health professional and expect it explains to me how they’re feeling. The truth is that it doesn’t, as everyone experiences their dis-eases differently.
The tricky thing of any diagnosis is that it puts you in a box and you start to identify yourself with your diagnosis. You’ve finally received a label that fits your complaints and now you only have to crawl into a box and stick the label onto it. Now you’re labelled, you start seeing yourself as different from everyone else. You start believing you’re different and to meet this belief, you have to behave different. You have to behave like someone who’s been diagnosed with ME and you start to exclude yourself from everything that doesn’t fit the label. Most of the time this happens unconsciously, without you even being aware of it.
The upside of this is that a diagnoses can help you to create boundaries. A diagnosis gives you permission, and, let’s be honest, a good excuse to skip the parties, activities, and obligations you don’t have energy for. As I’m all about boundaries, this is certainly a good thing. Until the boundaries become so narrow that you start to wither away and suffocate under your own command.
A diagnosis puts you into a box, but this box soon becomes a box you can’t get out of. This is especially true for boxes labelled with a chronic dis-ease, a diagnoses which won’t be cured, or a diagnosis which your doctor tells you you have to accept, won’t get any better, and will probably only get worse.
So there you are, in your box, feeling left alone, victimized, and abandoned by the world. You’ve been labelled and there’s nothing and no one on this planet who can undo the labeling for you (except for yourself). You think you won’t ever be able to do all the things you loved most ever again, or pursue the career that you’d been working towards your whole life.
But what if you just abandoned your box? What if you’d punch a big hole in it, tear It open and crawl out of it? Out into the abundant world that we live in, where we can determine our own rules, our own boundaries, and live our lives the way we want to live it. Not a life that’s determined by a labelled box.
It’s true that things won’t go back to the way they were before you were put in a box. That hurts and it’s something you’re allowed to grieve about. Moreover, you have to grieve your old life to make space for the new life that’s waiting for you right outside the box you were put in.
When you leave your box you’re free to explore what your limits are. Nothing is permanent and so your limits are always changing too. They can’t be determined by a labelled box, as the label is outdated as soon as it’s glued onto it. Outside the box you’re free to dive deep into yourself and find out the true cause of your dis-ease.
The truth is that a diagnosis is never, ever, the cause of a dis-ease. The dis-ease was already there when it was diagnosed. By escaping your box, you can go have a look where the dis-ease came from (hint: turn inwards), and find out what you can do about it. How you can heal yourself from the dis-ease you’re suffering.
You’ll discover how your dis-ease is actually bringing you closer to yourself. How it’s helping you to step into your true power. And when you’ve integrated the lessons you were gifted by your dis-ease, it will move on. It will leave you behind with a renewed energy, an energy that comes from deep inside yourself, an energy cultivated by living the life you’re meant to live. A life that provides you with meaning and fills you up with spiritual contentment.
Leave your box, heal yourself, and walk the path you are meant to walk.